I am so excited to share this information.
I teach in Dr. Ambedkar Open University on every sundays. I have started taking extra ours to finish the syllabus. That very day I gave a break for 15 minutes to all my students. I was sitting in the class and few women were also present along with me.
Suddenly a women (40-45 years) asked me one question. It was out of syllabus and absolutely her personal. She wanted me to respond on it. The question is 'Why her husband will not allow her to do any thing outside? Why he only takes care of every thing? Why he will not keep money in her hand? Why he will give only charges while coming to class?' She has mixed all these questions and waiting for my response. She looks very innocent to me every day. I was shocked to listen this.
I took a break to answer this question. I slowly smiled at her and said her husband loves her very much. That is why he do not want give trouble to her and he is taking all the burden/risk or whatever. I asked her not to feel it as burden but only concern, and finished my answer. She was not satisfied with answer, she said I am a man supporting another man.
Few weeks later, after the class, she came to me to give some money. I was astonished. She says she was giving out of happiness and as a student. She has also added that it was her last class and she will prepare for exams after that. The reasons behind her offer is that she conveyed what I have told in the class to her husband. He has agreed it and asked her to offer some good things to me. Now she is very happy because her husband is loving her.
I am really happy to know this thing that my answer made her relationship stronger. I have appreciated myself the way I have behaved and told her that I did every thing of concern, so I cannot accept her offer, otherwise it will become a business.
This made me to understand that trust, confidence and belief are inner aspects of an individual. Before that I was searching them from others.
3 comments:
Very happy to know this incident.
Happy in another sense also, to know how classes are going on and how our students' are!
Making a reationship happy on long term basis, as a mentor is not an easy task. You have mastered this art and still mastering. I hope your console or solace...etc will definitely be helpful to such kind of persons, when they interact with you. Indeed, the feeling to feel to share with you, itself is an great achievement.
you have actually mislead her in to happiness.
I am convinced the way you approached that woman's problem. Thanks for your empathetic attitude !
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